You've said 'Yes.....I Will!' to that most elusive question of marriage - What Next?

So it's that most romantic day of the year................and you've said yes!

 

You've been here before though...................and this is the second or third time that you're getting married!

 

I’m delighted to introduce an amazing and award winning Wedding Planner to you – Julie Dawson, the founder and owner of a West Midlands based wedding planning service – The Wedding Genie www.theweddinggenie.co.uk

Julie and I have been chatting about our wedding experiences and how it’s all in the preparation!  We got talking about those of you, who are marrying for the 2^nd or 3^rd time……or more!  
 

So if this Valentines, brings you an unexpected proposal……….and you say yes!................How about making your next wedding the best experience it can be!  Weddings aren’t just about the day itself…….they’re all about the preparation and attention to detail beforehand.  And that’s where hiring a Wedding Planner can really make a difference for you!

 

Julie shares some of the top reasons why using a Wedding Planner should be your number 1 priority.  She also knows her industry inside out and knows all the short cuts and key contacts.

She started her business in 2009 and is going from strength to strength in being recognised as the first port of call for weddings and civil partnerships.  And to top it all, she’s recently won the regional West Midlands Wedding Planner in the Wedding Industry Awards.

So if you’ve had a proposal……and you’ve said yes…………again!............take a peek into Julie’s blog to see why contacting a Wedding Planner, might be the first phone call you make.
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Wedding Planning The Second Time Around!

Congratulations! It’s valentines and your man got down on one knee and popped the question! Lucky you! 

You have been bitten with the wedding planning bug - BUT in this case you have been there before and although your first wedding was lovely, looking back you were younger and perhaps you didn’t have as much say in the wedding as you might have liked. Maybe the budget was not under your control so you felt you had to accept ideas and plans which you were not truly happy with. 

Well give a little shriek of delight because this time it is all about the both of you! You plans are completely under your control and you know exactly what you want and more importantly what you don’t. You also understand how quickly the day goes so you want to be sure to enjoy every moment. HEAVENLY! 

BUT where do you start? You have a demanding job and maybe a young family. Your work life balance is not the best, so planning the wedding of your dreams somehow has to get shoe horned into the few free hours you have in a week. What hours I hear you say. Maybe I do need help but from someone that will never hijack my ideas or me. ! Yikes more tricky than you thought! 

Well help is at hand in the form of a wedding planner! No! I can hear you say! Shouldn’t I be able to do this myself? I am a capable organised lady. I know what I want when I close my eyes I can see the vision of my wedding day very clearly. I have a budget worked out and know what I want to spend.  BUT? Now I just need the time to sit down for a few days and research brilliant reliable suppliers and book everyone. Not to mention shop for a wedding dress, plan my budget, and do all the other 101 things that wedding planning demands. 

A wedding planner can take on all those tedious tasks and free up your time. I find most of my couples have busy working lives. They are more than capable of planning their wedding but just don’t have the time! That’s where a wedding planner like me is invaluable. We give you time to do the things that you really want to do. It’s like having your own PA to call upon whenever you need to. They will give you ideas and inspiration to help bring that dream you have in your head to reality. Help you budget and find you a perfect team to work with.

Suddenly the mammoth task of days spent phoning and surfing around for suppliers instantly disappears and in it’s place - Hey presto! A list of the most fabulous wedding suppliers appears. You get to choose who you want from a list of people that suit your budget, personality and need! What’s more because of the relationship they have you know the price is fair, you might even get a discount because of using the planner! 

Someone is always at the end of the phone for advice. You are given a list of things to do to keep on track. That payment you forgot about – thank goodness the wedding planner just reminded you. Contracts! Who has time for those? No worries a good planner will read through them and point out anything to be queried or changed. 

The personal touch. Things have changed so much and you want many personal details injecting into your wedding day. It has to reflect you both; you are older and wiser and know your style and personalities. A good wedding planner will guide you and advise you. No one is going to take over! They should give you ideas you had not thought of that are original and match what you want to portray without railroading you into something different. 

Wedding planning can be very stressful. There is much to do and organise. Suppliers want to know a million things about timings, venue access, the who, what, where and how? 

Pass this on to the wedding planner – let them take the stress it’s what they do. You are left to enjoy the journey, work with fabulous people, whilst staying on budget and getting what you want. Stay in control and feel like you planned the wedding. 

In the run up and on the day itself you have time to enjoy every moment without worrying about set up of décor, paying suppliers, timings or anything! Get dressed and pampered then let an expert guide you through the day seamlessly and unobtrusively. You are the centre of attention! 

Don’t be bogged down with details, tasks and stress, just enjoy every minute from the time your engagement starts until the end of your wedding day!  

On your honeymoon when you reflect on your wedding this time around you’ll know it was exactly what you both wanted, you got to enjoy the whole day without stress too. I would love to help you with your wedding plans. Call or email me for a chat. 

And here’s a snapshot of a recent wedding that Julie did for a couple who were marrying for the 2^nd time………….photography courtesy of www.johastingsphotography.co.uk

 

 

Loved Guest Blogging for the photographer who captured my own Wedding Ceremony!

Almost 2 years ago and by chance, I met a local photographer by the name of Kim Shaw! (www.kimshawphotography.co.uk)

Little did I know at the time...........but she was to be more than a photographer who would provide me with my portrait pictures for my new web site....................In fact she became my photographer for my own wedding back in June 2012! 

I just liked her style, her relaxed approach and her passion for flexibility and professionalism.  I knew she was the right person to be with us on our wedding day and I simply wouldn't have asked for anyone else!  

So I was delighted when she asked if I'd blog for her..............to explain a little more about the role of Civil Celebrants and how they're performing personalised Wedding Ceremonies all across the UK. 

Here's the link to the blog, which gives you some insights into how a Civil Celebrant, can give you a most personalised and unique Wedding Ceremony:

http://blog.kimshawphotography.co.uk/?p=27

So if you're looking for a photographer that covers the Staffordshire, Shropshire or Cheshire borders................and who will put you at ease.........capture the essence of your wedding and just calmly bring it all together for you on the day................then get in touch with Kim!

The 'Just in Case' choice for religion!

"I'm not a Humanist............that was just too black and white for me...........I trained to become a Civil Celebrant!"

That means, that if families or couples want to put an element of religion into the ceremonies I design and take, then it's absolutely fine to do so.  Looking back on all the funeral services I wrote and took in 2012.........just over 65% of them had some form of religion in ........either a reading.....a prayer......or a hymn.

And their reason for doing so on many occasions?..........."Just in Case.......you never know!"

So people may choose not to have a member of the clergy standing up delivering belief systems but they may still want some comfort, peace, assurance.......or whatever we want to call it........at the very last hurdle! 

Very often, I'm introduced to families as someone who takes secular, non-religious services.  And for many that's appropriate and apt.  Yet when I let families know that they can in fact put something spiritual or religious into the service, they seem to readily make their choices..........and 65% of the time......choose to do so!

I've said before, that I don't think the world is so black and white - that we can say whether we're either religious or not religious.  I think those belief systems that go to the heart of who we are, they're much more debatable........and they swing on the pendulum every day!

But does that matter? 

If we want to put something into a ceremony "Just in Case" because that's how we feel today.......doing what we're doing:.......then in my world......that's fine!

Delighted to Guest Blog for 'The Wedding Genie'!

Well a happy new year to everyone and I hope your January is moving things along nicely in your life and your personal dreams!

I was delighted to be asked by Julie Dawson, owner and found of a Staffordshire based  Wedding Planning service www.theweddinggenie.co.uk to contribute a blog for her.

Julie provides a really good all round Wedding Planning service - and the best bit about how she works - is that she's superbly connected to other services that supply the wedding industry.  So when she asked if I would say a little about the Wedding Ceremonies I take  and how a Celebrant works - I jumped at the chance!

Here's the blog which is on Julie's site http://theweddinggenie.co.uk/2013/01/11/want-to-write-your-own-wedding-vows-or-even-your-ceremony/  It gives you a feel for how my Wedding Ceremonies run...............but I also share an insight into my own Wedding Ceremony in 2012.......and how I used the services of a brilliant fellow Celebrant, to design and take our Wedding Ceremony....................So I share first hand, my experience of what it feels like to celebrate your marriage using a Celebrant!

Enjoy the blog......enjoy the pictures.......and enjoy thinking about how you could have a Wedding Ceremony like no other bride and groom before you!

XCarole

Backs of Heads........Brick Walls........Daylight.....3 top tips for things to think about when you're booking your Wedding Ceremony venue!

When I'm delivering a wedding ceremony, I'm mindful from start to finish.......of bringing everyone's minds into what's going on.   Guests are not there to just watch you do something.............if it was that simple we'd just send them a You Tube link after the event!  Each of them are with you because you decided they should be there.........and each one of them needs to feel your emotion on the day.

Your guests and how they feel about the ceremony..........is just as important as the vows you make to each other......and how you yourselves feel afterwards.  What your guests say long after the celebration, will be a tribute to how you made them feel part of it!

I'm always thinking of the senses!.......hear, see, feel, smell and taste.  And as much as I write to hit all of those senses, the venue plays a big part.

So before you turn the key in your car to go off in search of the ideal venue, here are 3 top things to mull over.  They're  little things........but they'll make such a huge difference for you, your guests and how your ceremony's perceived!

• What's so good about looking at the back of your heads? 

Why do people think that guests just want to look at the back of your heads?  We want to see you smile, laugh and cry.......We want to feel what you're going through!  We want to see your lips move to the words you say!...........Make sure your venue can seat your guests so that they can see you............Try the 'horseshoe' style!...........But whatever seating arrangements you go for.........we want to be able to smile with you......we want to cry when you do! 

• Why do you want to look at a blank wall?

When you're taking your vows with the love of your life...........why do you want a wall staring you in the face?   Wouldn't you much rather look out to beautiful scenery, a bright blue sky.......frost covered fields.............or tumbling snow?  Our minds work differently when we can visualise ............when we can imagine.  Walls block out your thinking!........And yet I've seen so many licensed venues who position their couples facing walls.......it's just lazy and poor event management skills!

• Why are you in a room with no natural daylight?

I've seen this in Register Offices and licensed venues too!  Everyone is escorted into a room with closed walls and no natural daylight........The only thing that lets you know that there's an outside.....is the exit door!

Natural daylight provides energy, even if we can only see it.  It makes us breath differently.  It helps us to visualise.  If I was offered a room at a venue with no windows, I would turn that booking down.  I've done enough training functions in my time, to know just how exhausted and depleted people feel when they're 'boxed in' ......no matter how long or short the event is.  Your ceremony is only half an hour - you owe it to everyone to make it the best half hour that you can!

So if you're off to visit a venue for any kind of ceremony, try following these three top tips!  Baby Namings, Vow Renewals, Weddings and Funerals......are all about emotion.  And what triggers our emotional button is the senses..........let them see light!

Carole

What makes for a 'bad' funeral Celebrant?

Now you will have to excuse this little blog!

It's written for professionals in the funeral industry and  questions the description of 'good' and 'bad' Funeral Celebrants.  It might not be your cup of tea.................it might not be up your street.........but it's something I've been mulling over recently.  You'll find it in the attached link.

http://www.goodfuneralguide.co.uk/2012/11/what-makes-for-a-bad-funeral-celebrant/

My thanks go to Charles Cowling, author of The Good Funeral Guide, for including this in his blog...............and for his witty decision to attach a picture of Rowan Atkinson!

Carole

Inspiring.......original......heart-breaking.....Let me introduce my Guest Blogger and her charity!

I'm delighted to bring you a guest blog this week from a most inspiring young lady by the name of Naomi Thomas. 

Naomi is the founder of a wonderful charity that helps to give terminally ill people, the wedding of their dreams:-

The Wedding Wishing Well Foundation www.weddingwishingwell.org.uk

I invited Naomi to tell us more about her charity, more about herself and more about what she needs to turn her goals into reality. 

Before you dip into this blog - grab a coffee.........make sure you're not in a rush anywhere.........and then ask yourself one simple question............how can I help?

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Who kick-started the charity and why?

At the end of 2011, I was busy organising a fundraising event in the town I grew up in, for 3 cancer charities.  I do a lot of work for cancer charities as I have secondary Breast Cancer which means I will not survive.

The local paper were running stories about me in the run up to the event and they briefly touched on the fact that my partner and I desperately wanted to marry, but because of cancer, couldn't afford to.  After the story ran, a local wedding planner got in touch and offered to try and make our wedding happen for as little money as possible.

This got me thinking.  I worked as a wedding planner myself before my diagnosis and I wanted to help other people in my situations, to have the wedding of their dreams, just like ours was turning into.  

On 6th June 2012, I married the love of my life at St Audries Park in Somerset, in front of all our family and friends.  The Wedding Wishing Well Foundation was by then, in full flow! 

What's your biggest success to date?

The charity is still in its very early days, with our first wedding happening on 8th December.  However, we're very proud of the fact that Mary King, the Olympic Equestrian Silver Medallist, has accepted our invitation to be our patron.

What do you need more of?

Funds is a big one for us!  There are many things that we can source for free, but often we need to pay for food, petrol expenses for suppliers etc, and these are the things that actually make the weddings happen.  We'd also love to hear from any suppliers who'd be willing to offer their services to help our couples. 

We accept second hand wedding dresses, shoes, tiaras - anything wedding related really that we can re-use.  Our website gives information of all the ways that money can be raised for us, many of them won't even cost you a penny!

What's surprised you about your journey so far?

I've been surprised how generous people are, even when we're in a recession.  It's really restored my faith in the world.  Helping these couples is a chance to give something back for everyone.

If you had a crystal ball, what's the best thing you can see in it that could happen to the charity?

For us to still be doing what we're doing in 10 years time..............helping as many people as we possibly can.  And the most important thing of all for me...........is to still be here to see it happen.

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This is just one of those concepts that gets me right there! 

 

It's original.  It's heart-breaking.  But it really can make a difference - and for me, if a charity can hit that button, then it deserves all the help it can get.

 

A huge thank you to Naomi for sharing her thoughts here............and all our good wishes for the success of the charity......and her own well being.

 

Carole

 

Carole Renshaw

Civil Celebrant

 

 





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