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Wednesday, 16 January 2013

The 'Just in Case' choice for religion!

"I'm not a Humanist............that was just too black and white for me...........I trained to become a Civil Celebrant!"

That means, that if families or couples want to put an element of religion into the ceremonies I design and take, then it's absolutely fine to do so.  Looking back on all the funeral services I wrote and took in 2012.........just over 65% of them had some form of religion in ........either a reading.....a prayer......or a hymn.

And their reason for doing so on many occasions?..........."Just in Case.......you never know!"

So people may choose not to have a member of the clergy standing up delivering belief systems but they may still want some comfort, peace, assurance.......or whatever we want to call it........at the very last hurdle! 

Very often, I'm introduced to families as someone who takes secular, non-religious services.  And for many that's appropriate and apt.  Yet when I let families know that they can in fact put something spiritual or religious into the service, they seem to readily make their choices..........and 65% of the time......choose to do so!

I've said before, that I don't think the world is so black and white - that we can say whether we're either religious or not religious.  I think those belief systems that go to the heart of who we are, they're much more debatable........and they swing on the pendulum every day!

But does that matter? 

If we want to put something into a ceremony "Just in Case" because that's how we feel today.......doing what we're doing:.......then in my world......that's fine!

Thursday, 22 December 2011

For all those I've worked with this year - I wish you a warm and wonderful christmas!

It's getting closer to Christmas eve........when that silent hush starts to descend......when the frenzy starts to subside.........and when you have time to look around and check out the meaning of it all!

I've hung up my non-religious ceremony boots now until the New Year.  But as they hang there getting ready for 2012, I'm mulling over just what Christmas means for all those I've worked with this year.
  • To the families I've worked with who've lost someone special and who I've delivered a funeral service for - Christmas will be a difficult time.  I want to say happy Christmas - but those words just don't seem right.
  • To those couples who've stood before me renewing their vows - I hope that this Christmas brings you all that you hope for.....and then just that little bit more!
  • To those families who've celebrated their new arrival's baby naming ceremony with me - Enjoy your first Christmas together in your new family - and all the stories and fairy tales that now begin.
  • To the new business friendships I've encountered this year - I hope you've enjoyed our coffees and conversations as much as I have. 
  • And to those I have yet to meet and work with......here's to new beginnings!
This time of year affects us all differently.  It means different things to different people.  Wherever you are and whoever you're spending it with.......may it bring you all that you wish for - and only you know what that might be!

Have a warm and wonderful Christmas.....and above all - keep safe.

XCarole