Tell them your story.....your way!

I was gently reminded today..........of the power of story telliing!

Stories bring people to life.
Stories let our imagination run wild.
Stories help us to tell people what really happens in our lives.
 
Whenever I conduct planning sessions or meetings with families about big life events, celebrations and ceremonies........I use story telling as my main medium of inquiry.

If any Celebrant walks into your house with a structured questionnaire.....show them the door!

Tell them your story......your way!

x Carole

Baby Naming Ceremonies give more than just a name!

Baby Naming ceremonies - an alternative for when the church says no!

So the government's Office of National Statistics, has just announced the most popular baby names for 2010. If you haven't seen it yet, then you're about to go all gooey eyed if your child has one of these names.......

Top 3 names for boys:

• Oliver
• Jack
• Harry

Top 3 names for girls:

• Olivia
• Sophie
• Emily

So giving your baby his or her new name is great - but there's more to it than that in welcoming your new arrival into the family and community life. Have you ever been to a Baby Naming ceremony? Well if you've been to a christening then you'll know that it's not just about endorsing the name of the baby or young child. It's about promises, hopes, aspirations and commitment.

Baby namings offer an alternative to the traditional christening and they are the new arrival in the maternity and pre-school era. Talk to someone in your early years' groups and you're bound to bump into someone who's either had one, been to one, or thinking of having one!

They can be held anywhere, at any time and without the restrictions of time or format. They can be non-religious or semi-religious; the choice is absolutely yours. They're a celebration of your new arrival and a way of marking their entry into the new world with all of the promises you make to support them. If you wanted a traditional religious christening and your local church cannot or won't provide one for whatever reason - then rest assured that you do have an alternative!

And if by chance you were wondering how the trends on baby names have changed over time, these were the most popular a decade ago in 2000 in England and Wales:

Top 3 names for boys: - Jack, Thomas and James
Top 3 names for girls: Chloe, Emily and Megan

Just as trends on names change, so too do the celebrations we use to signify the baby's arrival into this world. Take a look at my website for further information on Baby Naming ceremonies, and how they offer a modern and unique approach to the celebration of a new child!

'Jumping over the broom' and 'Tying the knot'

'Do you have to be married to do this?

This morning I was taking a capuccino moment in my local coffee house. I was struck by an article in the Daily Telegraph around the differences between the option of living together versus marriage. The extract stood out for me, not because of any new revelation, but because it made me think more and more about the rituals of ceremonies and their symbolic impact on life.

My thoughts meandered into the implications of a wedding ceremony and how couples who choose to live together without marriage, miss such a significant event!

Now some will say that this is fine. Others will assume that the couple have not made that final move into a sustainable relationship. I don't advocate any right or wrong here as my own values on life take me to believe that everyone has the right to exercise their choice! But there is something about us as a society that values rituals, celebrations and symbolic acts. And wedding ceremonies are an example of just that!

So how would it feel if there was an option for couples living together, to create their own ceremonial affairs. We all need things to commemorate and be proud of - that's just part of being human.

There is no reason why two people could not celebrate their union without the formality and legality of marriage. We could start thinking about:

• Committment ceremonies to mark special anniversaries and milestones.
• Celebrating the moment when two people decide to set up home together in much the same way as we celebrate two people 'jumping over the broom'.
• Applying the concept of 'tying the knot' for two people, as we do in marriage.

Just because two people have chosen not to take their relationship into a legally married status, does not mean that they cannot take a ceremonial approach to their lives. The conduct of legal affairs and the design and running of ceremonies, are two completeley separate issues. And for many that is a perfectly acceptable way of living their lives.


So let's think much more creatively. Ceremonies are there to be experienced by us all. We just need to have the open mind to apply them more liberally!